“It’s not that my husband is a bad person. My parents just liked someone else. Anyway, while I was there, my parents returned to their hometown and eventually met my husband. We’ve been dating since we were 19 and we kept our relationship a secret from our parents for years until he proposed to me,” she explained.
And now it is u/kthrowaway244 Her parents want to meet him…but it would be a 10+ hour flight to see them. “I’ve been putting it off for a long time because thinking about it makes me anxious. I even asked my parents if I could fly them over (I’ll pay for everything), but they’re rude to even ask me.” They said.”
“So I’m stuck thinking, ‘OK, I’m going to go,’ and ‘I can’t do it anymore,’ and that’s affecting my whole life. My mom used to do things like, ‘Okay, I’m going to go,’ and ‘I can’t do this anymore,’ and it’s affecting my whole life. “He calls me twice a day, saying he has to come and that he wants to see his grandchild before he gets older, but in the end we decided that wasn’t possible,” she said. said.
u/kthrowaway244 She also explained that her son is “a fussy baby and needs to be held a lot.” That’s why she doesn’t want to take him on the plane. “He makes a lot of noise, so I’m scared of his reaction when we’re on a plane. I might be able to make it on a small plane, but it’ll take more than 10 hours. I’m tired just thinking about it.” And soon after, his parents and have to deal with their passive-aggressive comments. ”
“I called my mom and told her I wasn’t coming. She got very angry and kept ranting about my husband who was pushing us away. Eventually she said, ‘Forget it, we’re not coming. I don’t want to see his kids.’ Don’t call me again.”
“My aunt (who doesn’t speak to me) said she was very angry with me. My mother was really looking forward to meeting the baby and we beat her up. Apparently, the father doesn’t want to see the baby, but the mother doesn’t. “I really think so (but she refuses to travel without him). That’s why she’s pushing me so hard. I feel so bad because I know how much my mother loves her baby.I understand that she is in a difficult situation, but I can’t fly on a plane over the age of 10. ” Hours with my 4 month old. Ita? ”
Redditors were quick to decide that she wasn’t an asshole. “A baby shouldn’t be on a plane for 10 hours and then be in a completely different time zone and then back on the plane again, no matter how long the stay is. Changes in air pressure during the flight can put stress on the ears and sinuses. “All sorts of infections can occur from exposing your baby to everyone you meet while traveling. I took a microbiology class in graduate school and one of my professors said, He said he should not go anywhere for at least six months because his immune system is weakened.
Tell the aunt that you do not intend to take the baby away from the parents. You will be keeping him away from colds, flu, coronavirus, whooping cough, norovirus, and RSV until his immune system is better developed. If your mom has a problem with that, that’s fine. That’s her problem, not yours. You are the baby’s mother. Take ownership of it. You made the decision, not her husband. And your parents can’t stand the fact that they can’t bully you into following their orders. If they want to see him, they have a choice. They choose not to exercise those options and are blaming you. Personally, the narrow-minded person in me tells me to make sure to tell my son’s mother and aunt that when he grows up, his grandparents refused to see him. ”
“I put my 4-month-old on a 14-hour flight, which ended up taking 30 hours due to complications (I ran out of diapers around 8pm). If a mom wants to see her child, You can take a flight.” “
“Your mother is selfish and manipulative. If she really wanted to see her child, she would get on a plane without creating any drama. It’s too bad she was so worried about seeing your child.” I don’t think so. She just wants to be seen as a good grandma. A truly loving grandma wouldn’t want to put her precious grandma on a dirty plane, much less pressure her to come. A truly loving grandma. Then she’ll fly on her own without grandpa and come here. Spend time with your child. Maybe your dad will come too if she books it herself. Hmm. You already have a beloved family of your own, OP. Don’t spread your parents’ toxicity to the next generation. If their whining or manipulative behavior bothers you too much, don’t Get some therapy to help you cope.”
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