When you’re a parent, it can be incredibly painful to look back on your life and realize that your children didn’t grow up the way you wanted them to. This is what happened to one mother who was virtually abandoned by her children.
The woman, who was in a “dire situation”, received no support from her children.
TikToker Tanika Hendricks I am a mother of six children diagnosed with breast cancer. In the video, she lamented what happened to her children and the lack of support they are now being given.
“I never thought I would regret it so much, especially when it comes to having children,” she said.
Ms Hendricks explained that she and her ex-husband (the children’s father) are facing a time of anxiety and need, but their children have done nothing to help them.
“I don’t know what me and my ex-husband did to our children, but, well, we’re both in dire straits,” she said. “I’m not as good as him, but I’m just like him mentally and emotionally.”
“And it’s so sad because he and I got together when we were 19 years old and dedicated our lives to these people. And these people grew up to be these people…” she said, unable to finish her sentence and stepping back with tears streaming down her face.
Commenters on TikTok were extremely sympathetic to Hendrix and her plight.
One person advised, “It’s time to take care of yourself and let them go.”
“To stay healthy, you have to release your emotions,” says another.
Another TikToker thought Hendrix’s problem was dedicating his life to his children in the first place.
Stitching with Hendrix, TikToker Millie Bop Hendrix’s concerns were addressed. She said adult children are “basically abandoning their parents.”
Bopp said the reason for this is the way parents express themselves. “You dedicated your life to these children, and I think that’s the problem,” she explained.
Bopp said parents allow their children to take advantage of them endlessly, creating a toxic dynamic.
“Now you’ve taught them that the only purpose you can do for them is to give them things or do things for them,” she continued.
Bapp believed that the key was to get to know children as people.
“Have you ever given your child a chance to get to know you as someone other than you as a parent?” she asked. “I think they grew up and stopped seeing their parents as people,” she said sadly.
Most TikTok users who commented on Bap’s video agreed with her.
“Get to know your kids. Build a relationship!” one person urged.
“My mother was a health care provider,” said another. “Honestly, there was no emotional connection. That’s why our relationship is what it is now.”
It is true that adult children distance themselves from their parents.
It appears that more adult children are leaving their parents’ homes than ever before. Previous generations believed that children were as devoted to their parents as their parents were to them. Well, things have changed.
According to Newsweek magazine“Family rifts have become more common, especially as adult children lose contact with one or both parents… In 2020, Research by sociologist Karl Pillemard It shows that one in four Americans, or about 67 million people, are estranged from family members. ”
As children grow up, instead of showing their parents the love they received, they leave them behind.
While it is essential to show children the importance of helping their parents, it is also important to recognize that in many situations children are unable or unwilling to do so. In such cases, parents must be ready to take care of themselves.
Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer for YourTango, covering entertainment, news and relationships topics.